If there is a difference of opinion between the heart and head, then follow the heart.
Hanuman, the devotee of Rama, said: When I identify myself with the body, O Lord, I am Thy creature, eternally separate from Thee. When I identify myself with the soul, I am a spark of that Divine Fire which Thou art. But when I identify myself with the Atman, I and Thou art one.
The more we come out and do good to others, the more our hearts will be purified, and God will be in them.